Prophet (saw) said: Allaah will say, "O Aadam!" Aadam will reply, "I respond to Your call, I am obedient to Your commands, and all good is in Your hands." Then Allaah (swt) will say to Aadam, "Send forth the people of the Fire". Aadam will say, "How many are the people of the Fire?!" Allaah (swt) will say, "Out of every thousand, take nine hundred and ninety-nine". At that time, children's hair will turn grey and every pregnant female will spontaneously abort and you will see the people looking as if they are drunk, although they are not, but Allaah's punishment will be most severe". This speech distressed his Companions and they said, "O Messenger of Allaah (saw), who amongst us will be that man (one in a thousand)?" He said, "Be of good character: the thousand will be from Ya'juj and Ma'juj (Gog and Magog) and the one will be from among you". Then he said, "By Him in Whose hand is my soul, I hope that you will be one third of the people of Paradise." We praised and glorified Allaah (swt) and then he said, "By Him in Whose Hand is my soul, I hope that you will be half of the people of paradise, as you are among the nations like a white hair on the hide of a black bull or a round hairless spot on the foreleg of a donkey".
What hope do we have of being that 1 out of 1000 if we don't strive to be special in the eyes of Allah (swt)!
The ideas suggested below are ideal for Muslim mothers who have access to modern amenities, such as a smart phone or Internet. But, please bear in mind, the priority of the Muslim mother is to her husband and her family.
If you like giving advice on the phone or via email, why not register on a sisters help line. You can contact the sisters in your free time, and provide practical advice (in line with Islam insha’Allah). These sisters just need someone to talk to. Try solaceuk.org.
“Whosoever relieves from a believer some grief pertaining to this world, Allah will relieve from him some grief pertaining to the Hereafter…” (Hadith Muslim)
Millions of people use WhatsApp (a free app) everyday! Why not make a group with all your family members, give it an Islamic name, and post motivational ayats and hadiths every so often. Share important moments of each others lives, such as births and deaths.
"Preserve your genealogies and join the ties of kinship for mercy will never be far from you if you keep them close, even if they live far away; and mercy will never come close to you if you keep them distant, even if they live close by…”(Sahih Al-Hakim)
Use your Facebook or other social media account to post links to short catchy Islamic images or articles that your friends may be interested in. Don’t post too frequently as this can make people turn-off. Try posting different things. "All of a human being's words count against him and not for him, except commanding the right, forbidding the wrong, and the mention of Allah Most High." (Hadith Tirmidhi)
Have you ever thought about how wonderful it will be to hold a weekly discussion circle in your house? Start with your own family members first. You can discuss things children talk about at school. Encourage everyone to give their views, and at the end agree on what’s correct and what’s not.
“O you who believe, guard yourselves and your families from the Hell-fire whose fuel is men and stones.” (Qur’an: Al-Tahreem- 6)
Invite your friends or family for food and discussion. No need to get a speaker. Just pick a topic and discuss over food and snacks. Or instead, watch a program together and then have a discussion. This can be done very naturally during iftar in Ramadan!
“Every good deed that a human performs is multiplied ten times up to seven hundred. And Allah has said, ‘Except for the fast for it is done for My sake and I shall reward it [even more]. The person leaves his desires and food for My sake…” (Hadith Bukhari and Muslim)
Visit your Muslim or non-Muslim neighbour lady with some food. Everyone loves to try someone else’s cooking! Enjoy each other’s company whilst discussing what each other has been up to, but avoid gossips. Discuss an Islamic topic you’ve recently read about. Maybe your neighbor will take interest in that topic.
“The best friend in the sight of Allah is he who is the well-wisher of his companions, and the best neighbour is one who behaves best towards his neighbours.” (Hadith Tirmidhi)
Write a short article on a topic you know a little about and email it to some of your contacts for correction. The clever thing about this is that you will get people to read it and thereby getting them to think about the content! Once corrected and got the feedback, send it to IslamMuslims.com for it to be uploaded. Then send them the link to that page. This will encourage you and them to write more!
"Invite to the Way of your Lord (i.e. Islam) with wisdom …” (Qur’an, An-Nahl 16: 125)
Hold a monthly/ weekly dawah circle for the local sisters in the area near where you live. Encourage some of the participants to bring some nibbles and toys for their kids. Try to invite a knowledgable sister to hold a discussion (not a talk) on a topic everyone voted for.
Hadith narrated by Abu Sa'i that the women said to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):
The men are keeping you busy and we do not get enough attention from you. Would you specify a day for us, women? He promised them a day to meet them and educate and admonish them." (Hadith Bukhari)
The purpose of life is not work & family. So, encourage your husbands to go to the mosque more often, fast the voluntary fasts, read the Qur’an at home AND go out in search of knowledge and dawah! It’s a fact that most of what children learn in the early years comes from imitating their parents. Having a father who is a good example for your children to follow is as important as being good good-fearing mother. In return, Allah (swt) will reward you doubly! (Be careful not to moan and nag at husbands! ☺ )
"We asked the Prophet, 'O Messenger of Allah, shouldn't we refrain from calling others to goodness if we don't practice all good things ourselves, and shouldn't we refrain from forbidding wrong things until we ourselves have abatained from all the bad?' 'No,' he replied, 'You should call others to goodness even if you don't do all good, and you should forbid bad things even if you don't abstain from all of them yourselves.'" (Hadith Tabarani)
Get involved in collective dawah efforts by attending talks and going to events organized by others in the community whenever possible, so you and others who you take with you can learn more. If you can’t go then encourage your husband to go with the kids by getting the kids ready in advance. Don’t forget you are part of the global Muslim community, and the work other Muslim sisters are doing in the area should be supported by you and everyone else.
“You are the best nation produced [as an example] for mankind. (Because) you enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and believe in Allah.” (Qur’an 3:110)